Menu..

Berat masih maintain between 53-53.5kgs hingga ke hari ini..

Menu Hari Sabtu
-cereal for breakfast
-Smoothie banana+strawberry for snack
-lunch&dinner mee hoon goreng ayam

Menu Hari Ahad
-smoothie banana+stwayberry
-roti canai+mee goreng+mee tiaw ladna

Menu hari ini
-8 kpg biskut cracker jacobs
-1 1/2 bar fine dark chocolate kit kat
-smoothie strawberry+banana
-nasi lauk kari daging

Hari ini..

Hari ini aku ubah resepi smoothie aku..instead of sugar aku put honey and add banana inside my mixture. Mula2 tu rase kurang sedap juga smoothie strawberry campur banana ni..tapi bila dah diperam barang 1/2 jam dalam peti sejuk rase gulp..nyummy juga..Elokla kiranya aku catitkan diet aku smlm for monitoring:-

-b/fast cornflakes+semi skimmed milk
-smoothie strawberry plus sugar
-3 keping roti bakar
-1 pinggan penuh mee goreng for dinner
-2 biji epal
-1 biji oren
-2 ketul dates
-curi2 makan coklat sepotong dua

the end...

Again, malam tadi aku tak makan jamu aku..makanya hari ini sampai skrg aku masih tak melawat tandas lagi evento label kat dates yg aku makan tu kata dates ni is the source of fibre and helps maintain healthy digestive system..agak memelikkan juga system badan aku ni evento dah berbiji2 buah dan fibre aku dah makan..still degil sisa2 tu nak duduk diam2 dalam badan aku dan masih mengharapkan pemangkin utk dinyahkan..bukan buah2an dan cereal sahaja yg aku makan..yogurt pon termasuk dalam diet aku yg mana ianya juga bagus utk pencernaan..akhirnya aku buntu..rase macam nak request dan2 tu juga nak my darling belikan aku trampoline atau pon stepper..agak2 mungkin aku kurang exercise..walaupon kalu diikutkan semenjak my boy masuk skool hampir setiap hari aku berjalan..even so, my weight this morning maintain at 53-53.5kgs..okla tu..harap2 by next week dapatla susut lagi ke 52-53kgs..tadi sms aku browse flickr ternampak gamba seseorang yg slim-melim..aku agak mungkin around 48kgs kot her body weight..nampak muda jelatala that women evento punya anak sorang dalam 4-5 tahun umurnya..aku agakkan mesti that women sebaya aku kot..tapi aku ni nampak jauh lagi matured berbanding dia..aku mulala berkata dalam hati..utk maintain nampak muda, kenala maintain dan jaga badan supaya tak overweight..kemudian aku teringat kembali sms aku di mrsm..agak2nya bila aku nak kurus macam aku di mrsm dulu tu ye?? Kat bawah ni adalah gambar aku sms di tingkatan 4..mmg kurus u...



Tapi stkt aku di mrsm sajela aku kurus..kemudian mulala aku mengembang dan mengembang..no wonder, x-classmate aku di mrsm tak habis2 nak panggil aku tembam sms dia melawat aku dan teman2 di university...mmg aku dah berkali2 ganda besar dr sms aku di mrsm..ahahhaha...mahu aku kene diet susutkan lagi 8kgs kalu nak kurus cenggitu

Ok kita tinggalkan citer wawasan nak kurus ni..aku nak menulis ttg my boy pula..hari ini aku sakit kepala sbb my boy meragam sms balik dr sekolah..aku ni actually tak kisah my boy nak duduk di rumah..tapi kalu dah mula keluar peel2 hebat my boy ni mmg mudah sgtla aku nak naik hangin..bile hangin dah datang mudah2 sgtla my boy tu dapat spesel present dr aku..Hari ini dia tak ke nursery Maya..sbb org nursery tu dah confuse ingat my boy tak datang ke nursery..bile tghari tadi aku datang..dia kate dia tak de makanan utk may boy..rase hangin je aku..tanduk pon macam nak keluar atas kepala....maka balikla aku ke rumah dgn my boy dgn hati kecewa dan membara disebabkan takde makanan diperuntukkan utk my boy..Dalam hati macam nak maki2 je nursery tu...Sms di nursery tadi kami sempat tgk my girl makan..wah bukan main sopan anak dara aku..bile di rumah mesti tak mahu duduk diam di higchair..tapi di nursery bukan main baik hati je duduk dan siap terikat lagi di kerusi baby..

Nota kaki: Aku dah calarkan kereta avensis my darling sms pick up my boy skool..ntah ape yg aku langgar sms aku reverse di jalan tadi..

Diet kus2

Aku namakan diet aku sbg diet kus2..sbb ni ari timbang pon berat aku still 53.5-54kgs..hampeh betul! mana taknya evento smlm aku makan awal sblm pukul 5 p.m..I had 2 giant dinner..baked potatoes and nasi kari daging..malamnya aku tahan makan..kalu lapar aku makan buah sahaja..mmm macam ini failla misi aku nak turun ke 52kgs..sedangkan next week on Friday kami dah nak bertolak ke Holland..Perut aku pon tak fully kempis..masih lagi juga ditahap begitu tapi tidakla juga seteruk sebelumnya..Hari ini aku pon tak pasti samaada aku akan strict follow my diet or not..kalu tak harapan hanya tinggal harapan sahajala..mm rasenya kalu aku dapat susut dalam range 52-53kgs pon dah cukup bagus gamaknya..Aku tidakla juga dapat menamakan diet aku as kellogs diet solely..coz aku cume makan kellogs for my breakfast while for lunch and dinner aku makan macam biasa..hari ini aku bercadang nak makan bake potato+bean+mackarel lagi dalam pukul 4.30 p.m supaya aku kenyang dan tak makan lagi after 5 p.m..macam2 strategi diet aku guna..at least aku gunakan blog ini utk monitor bagaimana aku mengawal berat..oh ye tak lupa..smlm aku makan jajan sepaket dalam 140+kcal..

Kisah my boy pula..hari ini kami sekeluarga terbangkit lewat..my boy ke skool pon lewat juga..itupon masih sibuk2 nak makan roti bakar 2 keping..macam2 saje my boy ni..aku rase mmg seelok2nya semua org bangkit pukul 6.30-7.00 a.m..Dalam pada itu dapatla my boy bersiap dalam pukul 8.00 a.m..so, he will have an ample time nak merilekskan diri dan nak breakfast..

While for my girl..nampaknya semakin berdikari dan main sendiri...tak begitu nak dekat2 dan bersayang2..lagila buat ibu rindu pada my girl..

Feel anak2..

Hampir setiap hari feel anak2 itu tidak sama..begitula my boy pada hari ini...letih aku membebel sakan dgn anak teruna aku..sedang elok dia sudah bersiap pergi sekolah dan hanya menunggu utk sarapan pagi pada pukul 8.30 a.m, dia masih terlentok2, tertutup2 mata hendak tidur lagi katanya..Bile jam menunjukkan pukul 8.40 a.m, baru datang mood my boy hendak makan..sedangkan 8.45 a.m itu adalah sepatutnya waktu masuk ke kelas..kemudian my boy buat hal pula merengek mahukan cheese adiknya dan insist utk have had his cheese sblm ke sekolah..dalam menapak ke kelas my boy jalan jauh kebelakang dr aku.. akhirnya kami sampai lewat ke kelas..rase penat membebel tu tak habis lagi aku rasakan hingga skrg..letih melayan kerenah anak2..Aku pon tak pasti feel apa pula slps my boy balik skool nanti..smlm hampir seharian dia mengacau aku buat kerja..

Alhamdulillah my girl tak banyak meragam..hanya duduk diam2..paling2 pon asik sibuk nak bermain dgn kasut di rak kasut..ada masa bila aku hilang timbang, mahu saja aku campakkan sume kasut2 dan rak kasut tu sekali keluar..aku penat nak melarang mahupon, mengangkat dan mencuci tangan my girl kalu dia bermain kasut..Hari ini my baby sitter dgn sportingnya mengcollect my girl dr bawah..kalu tak memang habis semput aku nak menapak tangga rumah my baby sitter..Smlm slps pick up my girl dari rumah baby sitter..aku terasa sprt perasaan rindu bersarang dgn my girl..ntah kenapa hati aku sprt merasakan kehilangan my girl seketika..mungkin sbb hampir seharian aku di rumah dgn my boy tanpa my girl..dan lagi aku hanya sempat meluangkan beberapa jam bermain2 dgn my girl sblm dia masuk tidur padal pukul 9.30 p.m..kalu dibilang2 mmg ade 4-4 1/2 jam sahaja masa aku bersama my girl..itu belum lagi dikira apabila aku sibuk di dapur dan makan dinner tanpa my girl..ntah kenapa tiba2 aku merasa sedih..sedih kerana tak byk masa utk aku bersama2 my girl..ini baru perasaan bile my girl tiada di depan mata utk 8-9 jam..apakah agaknya perasaan aku bila my girl berada jauh di Mesia dan aku masih di sini???? Pastinya aku akan merasakan suatu kehilangan..



Bercerita ttg diet..smlm aku makan byk nasi lauk kari daging for dinner..dan aku timbang pagi tadi berat aku dah naik se-kg pula..iskk..iskk..mungkin sbb aku tak telan jamu utk kelmarin utk lancarkan pembuangan..dan hari ini bila time aku nak ke tandas..mmg dah cam tepu sbb sisa smlm tu aku rase dah accumulated...masalah aku dr dulu sampai skrg without the help of jamu mmg aku jarang sgt nak visit tandas..

Aku yg kepenatan..

Sungguh2 letih rutin hidup kami yg terbaru skrg..sejak my boy masuk skool..kami sekeluarga bangkit awal..dan sejak my boy ke skool jugala..he refuse to stay with baby sitter..dia lebih prefer stay at home with his mummy..tapi aku tak kisah sgt as long as dia tak kacau aku buat kerja..smlm perkembangan bagus, my boy terus masuk ke class tanpa memerlukan bantuan aku meletakkan coat dan menunggu dia barang seketika..aku sangkakan, the same thing would happen this morning..but it turned to be oppositely..sekurang2nya my boy tak menangis lagi..what i need to do is just to give him a big and thight hug and lots of kisses before leaving to secure my boy that i will be back soon to pick up him from school. He kind of soft person and at the same time easily can be mean in a split second..mood swing bebudak sukar nak predict..what the most relaxing part..our children sleep earlier than before that leave the parents to enjoy their quality time together afterwards..kalu ikutkan aku pon dah nak pancit..by 11 o'clock aku dah mamai2..dan tertidur..

Yg membuatkan letih mungkin sbb aku banyak berjalan dan menggunakan tenaga utk mengangkat anak2 dr carseat mereka dan itu belum dikira lagi aku kene angkat, buka dan tutup stroller..bile sampai di rumah baby sitter nak plak kene menapak tangga..mmg ishkkk tak larat gue! Balik rumah dah kene bersilat memasak..mmm beginila rutin hidup manusia berkeluarga..

Bercerita ttg diet..smlm diet aku hancus semula..hehehhe..aku makan fillet of fish dan french fries fr Mc D..pagi ini aku timbang, ok my weight still maintain 53kgs..itupon aku terbabas tak makan jamu nona roguy malam tadi sbb kepenatan..Ade beberapa hari lagi sebelum kami ke Holland and Belgium..mungkin aku perlu lebih berdisplin slps ini..another 2kgs to go..semoga aku akan succes..hopefully by this week or early next week aku akan susut ke 52kgs..

Perkembangan diet terbaru..

Semalam aku timbang berat aku dah pon susut ke 53.5kgs..dan hari ini nampaknya dah menjadi 53kgs..alhamdulillah ada perubahan..kalu diikutkan mmg setiap hari aku bergerak..smlm aku tawaf padang carbooth sampai terasa sakit2 badan aku nak bangkit pagi ni hari..Kalu ikutkan target aku...ade 2kgs lagi to shed away..sbb pada pandangan aku..kalu aku dapat loose dalam 2-3kgs dah cukup bagus..nak aim lebih dr itu..takut tak realistik pula..

Kalu dulu2 aku lihat..org bule kurus dgn makan sebanyak mana yg mereka mahu..tetapi mungkin sekarang mindset aku dah berubah..kita perlu mengambil diet yg sesuai, exercise atau aktif bergerak utk mencapai semua itu..dan aku tak nafikan mengapa ada org bule kurus walaupon makan-byk sbbnya kerana mereka menggunakan tenaga cthnya bekerja hingga tak tentu masa samaada dgn memerah otak atau fizikal..

Sepanjang last week..aku cuba sedaya upaya utk hanya mengambil makanan yg sihat..aku cube mengembalikan habit aku yg cume mengambil buah ataupon minum air apabila terasa lapar..sesekali dalam berdiet ada juga aku terbabas makan jajan, coklat, crepes, roti putih dan pizza..yg kelakarnya bila aku dah telan makanan2 tu semuanya baru aku teringat yg aku sdg berdiet..tapi ada juga makanan yg aku makan dgn sengaja..cthnya jajan2 dan roti yg lazat(alasan aku fasal nak buat pelupusan junk food supaya aku dapat mengamalkan diet yg sihat dgn segera)..

sambil berdiet aku rajin2 pakai girdle crony dan beautiful aku utk shape up my body..cume aku tak berkesempatan nak berexercise cam sit up..since bile aku nak exercise sahaja..anak2 mesti datang dekat dan memanjat2..Ada masa bile aku tak sempat nak sarapan..aku just minum herbalife dan tak ketinggalan malam sebelum tidur jamu nona roguy...

utk berdiet during weekend mmg a bit challenging..last saturday aku dah kantoi makan pizza dan burger daging..yg tak syoknya baki pizza tu masih tetap ada hingga ke hari ini..dan of course krn aku berada di rumah..bile saje aku rasa lapar aku yg nampaknya yg bakal menghabiskan segala pizza tersebut..Pagi ini saja aku dah tergoda menjamah pizza tersebut lagi..mmm susah betullakan nak berdiet ni..utk snack aku dah berkira2 dr semalam utk membuat smoothie strawberry..mm nyum..nyum..Aku harap by end of this week aku will lost another 1kg..tak pon 0.5kgka..if everything looks fine mungkin kalu aku cukup smgt..aku nak aim susutkan lagi berat aku ke 47-49kgs..Mmg pecah rekod 10 tahun..coz aku dah lama tak pecah rekod berat bawah 50kgs..Orang kata org yg mengamalkan diet sihat ni looks younger from their age..mmm mana perempuan yg tak mahu kelihatan muda katakanla kepada aku..ekekkekek..

Perubahan lain yg aku dapati setelah berdiet beberapa hari ini..aku rasa badan aku ringan dan perut aku agak kempis..mmg aku perasan..kalu berat aku naik ke 54-55kgs..mesti disebabkan perut, peha dan betis aku yg mengembang..mmg larila sume allignment tu kalu tak control berat..

Anyway, aku enjoy dgn my new diet..ini bukan diet berlapar..tapi bule makan apa yg kita suke dgn kerap sekali hanya kuantitinya sahaja perlu dicontrol..aku still mengambil nasi dgn mempraktikan makan sayur2an dan lauk pauk terlebih dahulu..

p/s: herbalife tu makanan emergency sahaja..dalam minggu lepas aku hanya mengambil herbalife sekali..lagi satu aku dapati herbalife ni menjadikan sistem pencernaan aku kurang efficient..

7 DON'T after a meal

1. Don't smoke- Experiment from experts proves that smoking a cigarette after meal is comparable to smoking 10 cigarettes (chances of cancer is higher).

2. Don't eat fruits immediately - Immediately eating fruits after meals will cause stomach to be bloated with air. Therefore take fruit 1-2 hr after meal or 1hr before meal.

3. Don't drink tea - Because tea leaves contain a high content of acid. This substance will cause the Protein content in the food we consume to be hardened thus difficult to digest.

4. Don't loosen your belt - Loosening the belt after a meal will easily cause the intestine to be twisted & blocked.

5. Don't bathe - Bathing after meal will cause the increase of blood flow to the hands, legs & body thus the amount of blood around the stomach will therefore decrease. This will weaken the digestive system in our stomach.

6. Don't walk about - People always say that after a meal walk a hundred steps and you will live till 99. In actual fact this is not true. Walking will cause the digestive system to be unable to absorb the nutrition from the food we intake.
7. Don't sleep immediately - The food we intake will not be able to digest properly. Thus will lead to gastric & infection in our intestine.

Berdiet..

Aku dah timbang berat aku sebaik bangun tidur..around 54-55kgs..Aim aku utk menyusutkan berat dalam 2-3kgs dalam masa 2 weeks sblm kami ke Holland and Belgium..mampukah aku? Aku nak buat diet kellogs..smlm dalam aku berdiet tu..banyak kali juga aku terbabas..jadi sng kata, diet smlm tu cancell..tak valid..sbb aku dah makan almond london siang harinya dan sotong goreng for dinner..Nampak gayanya smlm aku sprt dapat menahan nafsu bile melihat my darling makan dinner lewat..

Aku plan dalam masa 2 weeks ni since aku cepat lapar..aku akan makan buah2an atau minum air banyak2...herbalife buat masa ini aku lupakan..sbb aku rase sprt nafsu makan aku sprt uncontrollable slps memakan herbalife...pity of me...tapi, to be honest mmg sedap minum herbalife ni..bule jadi macam ketagih..dgn syarat mesti mix dgn susu dan jgn dgn air mata semata2..mmg yuckie! serius aku tak bule telan kalu skdr campuran herbalife dan air sahaja...

Harap2 diet aku berjaya..tak loose weight..loose inches pon tak ape2..kalu dapat jadi 52-53kgs pon ok gaks..walaupon sebenar2nya impian berat aku adalah 48-51kgs..mmm mana taknya bile berat aku dah 51kgs ade satu masa dahulu tu..mulala aku tak berdisplin dan makan tak terkawal..krn itu beratnya menjadi turun naik..

Aku harap dgn banyak aktiviti plus memakai girdle beautiful dgn rajinnya..aku leh shapekan dan susutkan badan aku ni...AMIN..

Nak diet...

Another 2 weeks, kami akan ke Holland and Belgium..badan aku plak semakin hari semakin naik mencanak2..sejak 2 weeks ago..simply aku naik 3-4kgs..mmm punyala mudah nak naik badan...tapi susah nak turunkannya..kenaikan ni aku kira disebabkan oleh beberapa perkara

-i ate many junk foods..ccoklat and jajan..even aku makan 80% of my cheese cake coklat drpd org lain..
-aku sering makan lewat malam after 8 pm since my darling balik lambat
-aku kurang exercise..

since aku hantar my boy ke skool..at least adelah aktiviti bergerak..mengangkat anak2 dan stroller sbg exercise tgn dan berjalan utk exercise kaki..tapi exercise abdomen dan perut??? mmg hancussss...

aku ingat nak diet kellogsla dalam mase 2 minggu ni..drop up an inch bak dalam advertisement tu..tapi pada masa yg sama aku macam susah nak kontrol makan..aku rasa jalan mudah adalah dgn

-memantau jgn membeli makanan tak berfaedah di dalam rumah...
-banyakkan minum air
-rajin2 pakai girdle
-ganti puasa

harap2 menjadi..nampaknya aku kene timbang berat aku sblm aku memulakan regim aku ni dan monitor sendiri thru blog ni..

Balik Sekolah...

Hari ini cerita fasal my boy balik sekolah..tibe2 katenya nak ke rumah aunty S nak tgk baby..excited nak jumpa aunty S dan anaknya si K..ntah mimpi agaknya my boy ni siap nak aku siapkan makanan utk dibawa ke sana..betapa bahagianya dapat menjaga anak2 dgn tangan sendiri..melihat mereka membesar..sesuatu yg tak ternilai perasaannya dari dalam..Tambah lagi, my boy semakin petah bercakap walaupon tak seterang sprt anak si N di kg..but for me not too bad..as long he could be seseorang yg berguna apabila membesar nanti dah syukur alhamdulillah..evento ade sesetengah parents punya anak yg nampak jauh lagi bright dan pintar dalam fasa ini..tapi aku tak rasekan ia sbg threat..Pada pandangan aku, biarla dia membesar dgn bebas tanpa paksaan..

How Behavior Changes in Toddlers

Children are born and then they grow--and grow, and grow. Here's what you can expect in your child's development as he enters the toddler stage, age 18 months to 2.5 years.

Children at this age are becoming their own people, separate and independent from their parents. They need to explore everything in their environment, to help them learn about the people and places in their life. At the same time, they are improving their walking, running, and climbing skills and learning to talk.

There are many behaviors at this age that challenge parents. As a toddler, it is likely that your child won't always hold your hand, will refuse to come when called, and say "NO." It is common for toddlers to insist on having things a certain way, to have temper tantrums, and refuse to share or take turns.

During this stage it is still important to childproof your child's environment. It is also important to be patient with your child. Don't try to make a child do something until he's ready to do it. Children aren't always ready when their parents are ready. Skills such as toilet training, eating with forks and spoons, and being careful with the pages of a book come when the child is ready to learn.

Don't expect a child of this age to do everything a parent asks. Expecting a small child to be obedient will frustrate both parent and child. It helps if you keep your sentences short and simple and be very specific and direct. For example, rather than saying, "Clean up this mess," try saying "Let's pick up these toys and put them in the toy chest"

Tantrums are common at this age; your best defense is to try to keep them from happening. Avoid taking your child someplace when he is hungry or tired, or will be tempted to demand things he sees. If your child has a tantrum keep calm and ignore it as best as you can, this decreases the chances of the behavior occurring again.

The best method of discipline for children of this age is distraction. Because toddlers have a short attention span, most will quickly do what you want after being distracted. For example, if a child refuses to let you put on her coat when it's time to leave, stop the effort and direct her attention to something out the window. After that go back to the task of putting on the coat. Chances are that the coat will slip right on. And remember to pick your battles; some behavior should simply be ignored.

The toddler years can be trying years. But they are also wonderful years, when your child is learning so much and growing in so many ways. These tips will help you and your toddler enjoy this time of life together.

Angry Child..

Some children throw tantrums and some never do. Children throw tantrums as a way of expressing anger and frustration. If the behavior is dealt with incorrectly, the child may learn to use tantrums to manipulate people and to gain attention. In dealing with tantrums, the ultimate goal is to teach the child acceptable ways of expressing anger.

Surviving the tantrum
The most important things to remember when your child is in the throes of a tantrum are:
a) Don't punish the child.
b) Don't reward the child.
c) Stay calm and ignore the behavior to the extent possible.
d) Keep the child safe.
e) Isolate the child if possible.
f) Don't let the disapproval of other people affect your response to the tantrum.

When your child throws a tantrum, she is essentially out of control. You must make sure that you stay firmly in control. Punishing the child for throwing a tantrum, by yelling or spanking for example, makes the tantrum worse in the short term and prolongs the behavior in the long term. Trying to stop the tantrum by giving in to the child's demands is even worse. This is the way to teach a child to use tantrums for manipulation, and will cause the behavior to continue indefinitely, even into adulthood.

At Home
When the child throws a tantrum at home, calmly carry her to a place where she can be left safely by herself, such as a crib or a playpen. Then leave the room, shut the door, and don't go back until she calms down. When the child is calm, have a talk with her about her behavior. If you don't feel safe leaving the child alone, stay with her, but don't respond to the tantrum in any way. Don't even make eye contact.

In Public
If the child throws a tantrum in public, carry him out of the public area if possible, and take him to a place where you can have some privacy. The best place to take him is to the car, where he can be buckled into his car seat. Then you stand near the car or sit in the car and wait it out without reacting to the tantrum. When the tantrum subsides, talk to the child about his behavior, and then return to your activities.

Sometimes it won't be possible for you to escape from the public place easily. For example, if you are in a commercial jet and the child throws a tantrum while you are coming in for a landing (as my daughter once did), you are basically stuck where you are. Likewise, you may find it hard to escape if you are standing in a long check-out line at the grocery store with a cart full of groceries. Under such circumstances, all you can do is grit your teeth and hang on. Ignore the screaming child. Ignore the glares and snide remarks of the people around you. Keep your cool. (Anyway, a screaming child in a check-out line speeds it up, so your child is actually doing everyone a favor.) Once you are able to make your escape, talk to the child about his behavior.

Teaching the child alternatives to tantrums
Once your child has settled down, you and she need to have a talk right away while the memories of the episode are still fresh in her mind. She threw the tantrum because she was angry or frustrated. Don't get into the issue of why she was angry or frustrated. Concentrate on the tantrum itself, explaining to the child that the behavior isn't appropriate. Then teach her what she should do instead when she feels angry. This works with children of any age, even toddlers. Your toddler will understand you. Toddlers understand far more than they are able to express.

First describe the behavior: "You felt angry and you threw a tantrum. You were screaming, throwing things, and kicking the walls." You say this so the child will understand exactly what you are talking about.

Then you explain that tantrums are not proper behavior. Make sure that you are clear that the tantrum is bad, not the child. "Tantrums are not appropriate behavior. In our family, we don't scream and throw things and kick. That behavior is not acceptable." This has an impact on the child, because your child wants to do the right thing. You help her by explaining that tantrums are the wrong thing. And don't worry about using big words such as "appropriate." If you use big words with a child, the child will learn big words. If you use only little words, your child will learn only little words.

Then give the child some alternatives: "I know you felt angry. When you are angry, what you do is say, 'I'm angry!' Can you say that?" Have the child repeat the phrase after you.

Next review what you have said. "What are you going to say next time you're angry?" Get her to repeat the phrase, "I'm angry!" Then say, "Next time you're angry, are you going to scream?" The child will probably say or indicate "no." "Next time you're angry, are you going to throw things?" "Next time you're angry, are you going to kick?" End up with, "Tell me again what you're going to do next time you're angry."

You will have to repeat this discussion many, many times. It takes a long time for a child to learn how to control a temper tantrum.


Preventing tantrums
You may notice after awhile that certain settings and circumstances seem to precipitate your child's tantrums. My daughter, for example, always threw tantrums when we went to a restaurant.

You can prevent tantrums by talking to the child beforehand. Explain to the child what you are about to do. ("We're going to go have lunch at Taco Kid.") Then tell the child what kind of behavior you expect, putting your expectations in positive terms. ("At Taco Kid, we're going to behave well. That means we will be polite, speak quietly, and use our words to ask for things and to say how we feel.") After you have told the child what you want, tell him what you don't want. ("We will not scream, throw things or kick. We don't do those things in public. It bothers people.") This tells the child not only what behaviors to avoid, but why to avoid them. Then get the child to agree to this. Say, "Now, tell me how you're going to behave when we go out. Are you going to speak quietly?" The child should indicate "yes." "Are you going to use your words?" "Yes." "Are you going to scream or throw things or kick?" "No." Then say, "That's great! We'll have a good time!" My daughter never once threw a tantrum if she agreed ahead of time not to. Run through this litany every time you plan to go out, because if you forget, the child will revert to tantrums in that environment!

If your child tends to throw tantrums in stores after you refuse the child's demand for treats, you can often avert the tantrum by making a game out of the child's demand, as follows:
Child: "I want candy!
You: "I want a rocket ship to Mars."
Child: "Give me candy!"
You: "Give me a rocket ship to Mars."
Child: "Give me candy!"
You: "I'll give you candy if you give me a rocket ship to Mars."
Child: "Here." (Pretending to hand you something.)
You: "Here." (Pretending to hand the child something.)
Child: "But this isn't real."
You: "What you gave me wasn't real, either."
Child: "But I don't have a real rocket ship!"
You: "Well, I guess you're out of luck, then!"

This may not work with every child, but it worked with my daughter. It's good for a child to learn that it's okay to want things, but it doesn't follow that a person always gets what he wants.

Another way of dealing with the grocery store tantrum is to discuss treats with the child beforehand. Tell the child where you are going, and what kind of treats, if any, the child can expect to get at the store. You might say, "When we go to the store, you can select one lollipop, any flavor you like, as a treat." Make it clear that one lollipop is all the child will get. If you don't want the child to get a treat that day, you should tell this to the child ahead of time. A child will often accept not getting a treat if told beforehand.

But make sure that whatever you tell the child before the trip to the store, you stick to it!

by Brenna E. Lorenz

Nak gelak besar...

Hari ini aku nak gelak besar..har..har..har..my boy kene bangkit seawal 7.10 pagi..sedang aku menjagakan dia..dia menolak kata nak tidur lagi..aku tak mengalah, terus angkat my boy ke dalam bilik air walaupon dia menangis2..sampai di bath tub mmg no excuse terus my darling mandikan..my girl plak mmg bangkit lagi awal berbanding abgnya sprt biasa..lintang pukang bila lihat aku tidak ada disebelahnya..yg seronoknya sume org sudah wangi dan bersih sblm pukul 7.30 pagi..walla!

Sejak my boy masuk skool, mmg aku tersgt2 kepenatan..mungkin penat keluar masuk rumah dan mengangkat stroller dan anak2 keluar masuk kereta..by 10.00 p.m..aku dah belayar tidur...mlm tadi kebetulan ade citer bes..tapi aku lupakan nafsu nak tgk tv...terus bawa anak2 ke bilik tidur..dalam pukul 9.30 p.m anak2 dah zzzzzz...adusss heavennya! cume aku sahaja yg tak terbangkit nak temankan my darling slps anak2 tidur since aku pon dah sama2 belayar di awang2an dan bertemu dgn mimpi...

Hari ini, yg seronoknya my boy tak menangis bila aku tinggalkan di sekolah..sprt biasa dia sprt tak merelakan aku meninggalkannya..aku peluk my boy beberapa kali erat2 dan meyakinkan dia yg he will be fine at school..dalam minggu ni puas kami masukkan input di kepala my boy yg dia akan dapat new toys or power rangers kalu dia rajin2 ke sekolah..rasenya, peringatan2 ni agak menyerap di mindanya berbanding menggunakan cara paksaan..kerana smmgnya my boy dah faham arahan..

my girl pula seawal 9.10 a.m aku dah hantar ke rumah baby sitter..mmm bila my boy nampak dah settle kini giliran my girl plak terlalu cranky..skrg ini bukan stkt my boy sahaja yg aku bising..dgn my girl pon aku turut bising...masalah utama my girl skrg dia tak bule tak nampak kelibat aku..mulala kelam kabut smcm jadi membantutkan kerja2 memasak aku slps pick my girl dari baby sitter..

Sekolah kembali...

My boy masuk sekolah kembali setelah hampir 1/2 term meninggalkan alam persekolahan...memang berbeza bile my boy ke sekolah..hampir semua org bangkit awal..alhamdulillah, my boy sempat b/fast coco crunch bersama2 my girl pagi tadi..Biasanya mmg aku akan terkocoh2 menguruskan anak2..yelah, nak menguruskan si my girl dgn nak menukarkan pampersnya, nak membersih2kan badannya dan menukarkan bajunya sblm dihantar ke baby sitter..my girl plak sejak akhir2 ini tak bule tak nampak kelibat ibunya, mulala sprt org hilang arah mengelabah dan menangis tak keruan..Mmg pagi tadi, my girl bangkit lagi awla berbanding abgnya..My boy, bila aku kejutkan masih lagi mengantuk..Since, hari jumaat lepas tak jemu2 aku memberitahu my boy yg dia akan ke sekolah James pada isnin minggu hadapannya..

Pagi tadi, alhamdulillah, my darling membantu memandikan my boy..yelah, kalu yerpon my boy tak mahu mandi, paling2 mestila nak disuruh pee, brush teeth dan tukar baju dahulu..kalu, my darling tak membantu mmg susahla gamaknya..kalu bule, utk hari2 seterusnya biarla my boy bangkit awal lagi dan mandi bersama2 my darling lagi..kalu bule biarla seawal 6.30 pagi..kemudian, bulela my darling bertolak ke tpt kerja pukul 7.00 pagi..Kalu 7.00 pagi my darling dah bertolak, sekurang2nya pukul 7 petang pada hari yg sama my darling dah sampai di rumah dan dapat membantu memandikan my boy diwaktu petang sementara aku memasak..My girl pula sekurang2nya dia dah mandi di rumah baby sitter..

Aku rase, life a bit more organize bile my boy ke sekolah..Smlm, anak2 semua tidur kurang dr pukul 10 malam..Harap2 my boy takkan byk menangis dan sentiasa happy apabila aku menghantar dan menjemputnya ke sekolah James setiap hari..Dan antara point penting harapnya dia akan lebih matured dan takkan byk ragam..Selesai dgn si my boy, cabaran menghadapi my girl pula yg kelihatannya sudah pandai meragam..

Rutin hidup..

Beginilah rutin hidupku dgn status ibu kepada spsg cahayamata..sentiasa sibuk dan sebenar2nya adakala mmg memenatkan..kalu ikutkan, bukan aku seorang sahaja yg penat..hampir ke semua ibu2 di seluruh dunia ini mungkin merasai dan melalui apa yang aku lalui skrg..

8-8.30 pagi-anak2/ibu mandi
9@10 pagi-hantar anak ke baby sitter/nursery
10.15-sampai di rumah dan b/fast
10.30-mula kerja
1.30-2.30-break makan
5.30-siap2kan barang2 dapur
5.50-pick up anak2 from baby sitter
6.15-sampai rumah
6.30-7.30 malam-mulai memasak utk dinner dan bekal my darling dan anak2 ke tpt keje dan rumah baby sitter
8.00-dinner ready
8.30-9.15-makan malam
9.30-waktu tidur dan story time anak2
10.30-waktu utk diri-sendiri@bersama suami

waktu pagi2 buta-terjaga yg entah berapa kali to calm my boy and my girl yg terjaga utk minta ditemankan, kehausan atau pon nak ke tandas...

Kalu dilihat dgn rutin tersebut..memang aktivitinya itu sentiasa penuh amat meletihkan..no wonder, by evening aku akan terus kekurangan tenaga dan keletihan..tapi itula hakikat sebenar2nya seseorg yg bekeluarga dan mempunya anak2..itu belum dikira lagi dgn bebanan kerja, urusan dalam rumah, melayan suami dan kerenah anak2...dikala ini situasinya, anak2 aku masih lagi kecil..bagaimana apabila mereka sudah memasuki alam persekolahan yg WAJIB? Tentu rutin seorang pasangan suami isteri itu akan sekali lagi berubah dan menjadi lebih sibuk dan semakin memenatkan..

Sejak my darling byk kerja dan sering pulang lewat..rutin kami lebih byk yg teranjak...cthnya waktu tidur anak2 mulai berubah kerana mereka biasanya akan menunggu kepulangan si ayah utk beramah-mesra..sometimes bedtime and story time teranjak ke pukul 10.00 malam..its a bit mess buat masa ini nampaknya..antara sbb lain rutin tersebut adakalanya berubah disebabkan aku membeli groceries dgn anak2..waktu mencuci baju, biasanya aku peruntukan pada hari Jumaat..mengosok baju dan mengemas rumah pada hari Sabtu atau pon Jumaat malam Sabtu..