Strawberry&Raspberry

mmmm nyummy-nyummy stawberry and raspberry. Dipetik fresh from Tesco. Kah..kah..kah..lani kami anak beranak mmg tgh kemaruk makan kedua2 buah ni. Sampai termimpi2 aku nak buat smoothie strawberry. Cara2nye mudah sahaja:-

1) Ambil blender
2) Masukkan approximately 100ml bio-live yogurt
3) Hull the strawberries and put in the blender
4) Blend sampai hancur
5) Dress with 2-3 biji raspberries

Ini dia gamba raspeberries yang mmg amat2 digemari oleh my darling and my boy..rase dia cam ala2 cosmetic gitu..macam rase one of my YSL lipstic collection (ini ikut rase lidah akulerr..)

Akhirnya dia tidur juge....

Yeha! Akhirnya kalah juge my boy ni ari..tidu awal di atas katil after aku bertegas suh dia masuk tidu cepat(displinla tu kengkonon2nya). Aku dapat idea ni after browse thru internet petang tadi..how to settle chidlren to bed. Mase my darling pi toilet, my boy pon sibuk nak had his bowel. Tu aku pesan kat my darling, minta tlg dia gosokkan gigi my boy sblm dia gone to bed.

For my girl as usual tak banyak kerenah..she slept in her crib around 9.15 p.m. Doa2la rutin dia selamanya gitu..as aku tanak dia spoil cam abgnya dulu. Tinggalle my boy je kene amik masa sket nak settle. Aku masukkan dia kul 9.30 p. after 1 hr baru dia nak betul2 tidoq. Segala lampu aku tutup, dan tinggalkan lampu tangga je terbuka kasik feel sket yang mase nak tidoq tu mmg dah tibe...Itupon sblm tu dia asik naik turun katil sbb distracted tengok my darling turunkan barang dari lawn for Spain trip preparation.

Citer pasal Spain ni..satu mende pon aku tak prepare. Ade satu atau dua outstanding..booking tiket masuk Al hambra dan tukar duit pounds to euro aku tak buat lagi..malas tulla..lagi2la sini skrg tgh panas..buatkan badan aku letih ajek..

Oh ye sblm tido tadi..4 buku citer anak aku dah khatamkan..sampai aku malas dah nak bacakan tuk dia..dan last2 aku suh dia citerkan tuk aku..hisk apela aku ni nak didik anak pon hangat2 tahi kucing. Bukan apela..1 buku cukupla..ni nak banyak2 penat ibunye ni nak bercerita..kah..kah..kah..mula2 tu baca lion king. Dah dia berangan jadik lion cub Simba, ayahnya jadi King Musaffa dan ibunya jadi Queen..eiii apentah namanya..pahtu nak baca plak citer little mermaid, dan lagi citer Bagheera dan lagi beauty and the beast...letih jadik penglipur lara ni...sambil baring2 aku ajar dia baca Al-Ihlas. Baru je aku ajar ni..dia pon baru belaja ikut2..Takdela dia pandai lagi..tapi bulela utk peringkat permulaan ni

Petang tadi aku carik2 kat web lagu bebudak yang selalu dia dok nyanyi..tapi aku tak jumpa plak..nantila tanya2 kat kengkawan lain mana nak carik lagu2 tuh..ade mase aku paste jeh kat sini..so, kalu my boy kecoh2 nak lagu..aku bukak je web ni..suh dia nyanyi sendiri.

Mase dia tgh mamai2 tadi sempatla aku membisikkan pada telinga dia..

'tido cepat..esok bangkit cepat..senang nak pi skool..my boy jgn tantrum2..be good boy ok..ibu sayang my boy..cup..kiss'.

After aku nampak dia settle..aku terus turun bawah carik my darling and...MERDEKA!.

Bedtime Basics

Temper Tantrums

You're witnessing your toddler's second temper tantrum of the day. It shows no signs of stopping, and the supersonic, ear-shattering, teeth-jarring screams pierce the air. Your first instinct is to run away and join the circus, but of course this isn't a real option. There must be a better way.

Temper tantrums range from whining and crying to screaming, kicking, hitting, and breath holding. They're equally common in boys and girls and usually occur from age 1 to age 3. Some children may experience regular tantrums, whereas for other children, tantrums may be few and far between. Children's temperaments vary dramatically - some kids are more prone to tantrums than others.

During the kicking-and-screaming chaos of the moment, tantrums can be downright frustrating. But instead of looking at them as catastrophes, treat tantrums as opportunities for education.

Why Do Kids Have Tantrums?
Even the most good-natured toddler has an occasional temper tantrum. They're a normal part of development and don't have to be seen as something negative. Unlike adults, children don't have the same inhibitions or control.

Imagine how it feels when you're determined to program your DVD player and aren't able to do it, no matter how hard you try, because you can't understand how. It's pretty frustrating - do you swear, throw the manual, walk away, and slam the door on your way out? That's the adult version of a tantrum. Toddlers are also trying to master the world and when they aren't able to accomplish a task, they often use one of the only tools at their disposal for venting frustration - a tantrum.

There are several basic causes of tantrums that are familiar to parents everywhere: The child is seeking attention or is tired, hungry, or uncomfortable. In addition, tantrums are often the result of children's frustration with the world - they can't get something (for example, an object or a parent) to do what they want. Frustration is an unavoidable part of kids' lives as they learn how people, objects, and their own bodies work.

Tantrums are common during the second year of life, a time when children are acquiring language. Toddlers generally understand more than they can express. Imagine not being able to communicate your needs to someone - a frustrating experience that may precipitate a tantrum. As language skills improve, tantrums tend to decrease.

Another task toddlers are faced with is an increasing need for autonomy. A child wants a sense of independence and control over the environment - more than the toddler may be capable of handling. This creates the perfect condition for power struggles as the child thinks "I can do it myself" or "I want it, give it to me." When a toddler discovers that he or she can't do it and can't have everything he or she wants, the stage is set for a tantrum.

Avoiding Tantrums Altogether
The best way to deal with temper tantrums is to avoid them in the first place, whenever possible. Here are some strategies that may help:

Make sure your child isn't acting up simply because he or she isn't getting enough attention. To a child, negative attention (a parent's response to a tantrum) is better than no attention at all. Try to establish a habit of catching your child being good ("time in"), which means rewarding your little one with attention for positive behavior.
Try to give your child some control over little things. This may fulfill the need for independence and can ward off tantrums. Offer minor choices such as "Do you want orange juice or apple juice?" or " Do you want to brush your teeth before or after taking a bath?" This way, you aren't in the position of saying, "Do you want to brush your teeth now?" which inevitably will be answered "no."
Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach, which will make struggles less likely to develop over them. Obviously, this isn't always possible, especially outside of the home where the environment can't be controlled.
Distract your child. Take advantage of your little one's short attention span by offering a replacement for the coveted object or beginning a new activity to replace the frustrating or forbidden one. Or simply change the environment. Take your child outside or inside or move to a different room.
Set the stage for success when your child is playing or trying to master a new task. Offer age-appropriate toys and games. Also, start with something simple before moving on to more challenging tasks.
Consider the request carefully when your child wants something. Is it outrageous? Maybe it isn't. Choose your battles; accommodate when you can.
Know your child's limits. If you know your child is tired, it's not the best time to go grocery shopping or try to squeeze in one more errand.
If a safety issue is involved, and the toddler repeats the forbidden behavior after being told to stop, use a time-out or hold him or her firmly for several minutes. Be consistent. The child must understand that you are inflexible on safety issues.

Tantrum Tactics
The most important thing to keep in mind when you're faced with a child in the throes of a tantrum, no matter what the cause, is simple and crucial: Keep cool. Don't complicate the problem with your own frustration. Kids can sense when parents are becoming frustrated. This can just make your child's frustration worse, and you may have a more exaggerated tantrum on your hands. Instead, take deep breaths and try to think clearly.

Your child relies on you to be the example. Hitting and spanking don't help; physical tactics send the message that using force and physical punishment is OK. Instead, have enough self-control for both of you.

First, try to understand what's going on. Tantrums should be handled differently depending on the cause. Try to understand where your child is coming from. For example, if your little one has just had a great disappointment, you may need to provide comfort.

It's a different situation when the tantrum stems from a child's being refused something. Toddlers have fairly rudimentary reasoning skills, so you aren't likely to get far with explanations. Ignoring the outburst is one way to handle it - if the tantrum poses no threat to your child or others. Continue your activities, paying no attention to your child but remaining within sight. Don't leave your little one alone, though, otherwise he or she may feel abandoned on top of all of the other uncontrollable emotions.

If your child is in danger of hurting himself or herself or others during a tantrum, take your child to a quiet, safe, place to calm down. This also applies to tantrums in public places.

Older kids are more likely to use tantrums to get their way if they've learned that this behavior works. Once kids are school age, it's appropriate to send them to their rooms to cool off. Rather than setting a specific time limit, you can tell your child that he or she must stay in the room until your child has regained control. The former option is empowering; your child can affect the outcome by his or her own actions, thereby gaining a sense of control that was lost during the tantrum.

After the Storm
Occasionally a child will have a hard time stopping a tantrum. In these cases, it might help to say to your child, "I'll help you settle down now."

But do not reward your child after a tantrum by giving in. This will only prove to your little one that the tantrum was effective. Instead, verbally praise your child for regaining control.

Also, children may be especially vulnerable after a tantrum when they know they've been less than adorable. Now is the time for a hug and reassurance that your child is loved, no matter what.

When to See Your Child's Doctor
You should consult your child's doctor if:

You have questions about what you're doing or what your child is doing.
You're uncomfortable with your responses.
You keep giving in.
The tantrums arouse a lot of bad feelings.
The tantrums increase in frequency, intensity, or duration.
Your child frequently hurts himself or herself or others.
Your child is destructive.
Your child displays mood disorders such as negativity, low self-esteem, or extreme dependence.
Your child's doctor can also check for any physical problems that may be contributing to the tantrums, although this is less common. These include hearing or vision problems, a chronic illness, language delays, or a learning disability.

Remember, tantrums usually aren't cause for concern and generally diminish on their own. As children mature developmentally and their grasp of themselves and the world increases, their frustration levels decrease. Less frustration and more control mean fewer tantrums - and happier parents.

Taming temper

Parents expect temper tantrums from 2-year-olds, but angry outbursts don’t necessarily stop after the toddler years. Older kids sometimes have trouble handling anger and frustration, too.

Some kids only lose their cool on occasion. But others seem to have a harder time when things don’t go their way. Kids who tend to have strong reactions by nature will need more help from parents to manage their tempers.

Controlling outbursts can be difficult for kids — and helping them learn to do so is a tough job for the parents who love them. Try to be patient and positive, and know that these skills take time to develop and that just about every child can improve with the right coaching.

A Parent’s Role
Managing kids — whether it’s one or more — can be a challenge. Some days keeping the peace while keeping your cool seems impossible. But whether you’re reacting to an occasional temper flare-up or a pattern of outbursts, managing your own anger when things get heated will make it easier to teach kids to do the same.

To help tame a temper, try to be your child’s ally — you're both rooting for your child to triumph over the temper that keeps getting him or her into trouble.

While your own patience may be frayed by angry outbursts, opposition, defiance, arguing, and talking back, it’s during these episodes that you need your patience most. Of course you feel angry, but what counts is how you handle that.

Reacting to your child’s meltdowns with yelling and outbursts of your own will only teach your child to do the same. But keeping your cool and calmly working through a frustrating situation lets you show — and teach — your child appropriate ways to handle anger and frustration.

Let’s say you hear your kids fighting over a toy in the other room. You have ignored it, hoping that they would work it out themselves. But the arguing turns into screaming, and soon you hear doors slamming, the thump of hitting, and an eruption into tears. You decide to get involved before someone gets hurt.

By the time you arrive at the scene of the fight, you may be at the end of your own rope. After all, the sound of screaming is upsetting, and you may be frustrated that your kids aren’t sharing or trying to get along. (And you know that this toy they’re fighting over is going to be lost, broken, or ignored before long anyway!)

So what’s the best way for you to react? With your own self-control intact. Teaching by example is your most powerful tool. Speak calmly, clearly, and firmly — not with anger, blame, harsh criticisms, threats, or putdowns. Of course, that’s easier said than done. But remember that you’re trying to teach your child how to handle anger. If you yell or threaten, you'll model and ingrain the exact kinds of behavior you want to discourage. Your child sees you so angry and so incapable of controlling your own temper that you can’t help but scream — and that won’t help your child learn not to scream.

What You Can Do
Regulating emotions and managing behavior are skills that develop slowly over time during childhood. Just like any other skills, your child will need to learn and practice them, with your help.

If it’s uncharacteristic for your child to have a tantrum, on the rare occasion that it happens all you may need to do is clearly but calmly review the rules. "I know you’re upset, but no yelling and no name-calling, please" may be all your child needs to gain composure. Follow up by clearly, calmly, and patiently giving an instruction like "tell me what you’re upset about" or "please apologize to your brother for calling him that name." In this way, you’re guiding your child back to acceptable behavior and encouraging self-control.

Kids whose temper outbursts are routine may lack the necessary self-control to deal with frustration and anger, and may need more help managing those emotions. These steps may help:

Help your child put it into words. If your child is in the midst of an outburst, find out what’s wrong. If necessary, use a time-out to get your child to settle down, or calmly issue a reminder about house rules and expectations — "There’s no yelling or throwing stuff; please stop that right now and cool your jets." Remind your child to talk to you without whining, sulking, or yelling. Once your child calms down, ask what got him or her so upset. You might say, "Use your words to tell me what’s wrong and what you’re mad about." By doing this you help your child put emotions into words and figure out what, if anything, needs to be done to solve the problem.

Listen and respond. Once your child puts the feelings into words, it’s up to you to listen and say that you understand. If your child is struggling for words, offer some help: "so that made you angry," "you must have felt frustrated," or "that must have hurt your feelings." Offer to help find an answer if there’s a problem to be solved, a conflict to be mended, or if an apology is required. Many times, feeling listened to and understood is all kids need to regain their composure. But while acknowledging your child's feelings, it’s important to make it clear that strong emotions aren’t an excuse for unacceptable behavior. "I know you’re mad, but it’s still not OK to hit." Then tell your child some things to try instead.

Create clear ground rules and stick to them. Set and maintain clear expectations for what is and what is not acceptable. You can do this without using threats, accusations, or putdowns. Your child will get the message if you make clear, simple statements about what’s off limits and explain what you want him or her to do. You might say: "There’s no yelling in this house. Use your words to tell me what’s upsetting you." Or try these:

In this family, we don’t hit or push or shove.
There’s no screaming allowed.
There's no door-slamming in our house.
There’s no name calling.
We don’t do that in this family.
You may not throw things or break things on purpose.
Coping Strategies for Your Child
Kids who've learned that it’s not OK to yell, hit, and throw stuff when they're upset need other strategies for calming down when they're angry. Offer some ideas to help your child learn safe ways to get the anger out or to find other activities that can create a better mood.

Take a break from the situation. Tell your child that it’s OK to walk away from a conflict to avoid an angry outburst. By moving to another part of the house or the backyard, your child can get some space and work on calming down.

Find a way to (safely) get the anger out. There may be no punching walls or even pillows, but you can suggest some good ways for a child to vent. Doing a bunch of jumping jacks, dancing around the bedroom, or going outside and doing cartwheels are all good choices. Or your child can choose to write about or draw a picture of what is so upsetting.

Learn to shift. This one is tough for kids — and adults, too. Explain that part of calming down is moving from a really angry mood to a more in-control mood. Instead of thinking of the person or situation that caused the anger, encourage your son or daughter to think of something else to do. Suggest things to think of or do that might bring about a better mood. Your child may feel better after a walk around the block, a bike ride, playing a game, reading a favorite book, digging in the garden, or listening to a favorite song. Try one of these things together so you both experience how doing something different can change the way a person feels.

Building a Strong Foundation
Fortunately, really angry episodes don’t happen too often for most kids. Those with temper troubles often have an active, strong-willed style and extra energy that needs to be discharged. Try these steps during the calm times — they can prevent problems before they start by helping your child learn and practice skills needed to manage the heat of the moment:

Help your child label emotions. Help your child get in the habit of saying what he or she is feeling and why — for example, "I'm mad because I have to clean my room while my friends are playing." Using words doesn’t get your child out of doing a chore, but having the discussion can defuse the situation. You’re having a conversation instead of an argument. Praise your child for talking about it instead of slamming the door, for instance.

See that your child gets a lot of physical activity. Active play can really help kids who have big tempers. Encourage outside play and sports your child likes. Karate, wrestling, and running can be especially good for kids who are trying to get their tempers under control. But any activity that gets the heart pumping can help burn off energy and stress.

Encourage your child to take control. Compare a temper to a puppy that hasn’t yet learned to behave and that’s running around all over the place getting into things. Puppies might not mean to be bad — but they need to be trained so that they can learn that there’s no eating shoes, no jumping on people or certain furniture, etc. The point is that your child’s temper — like a puppy — needs to be trained to learn when it’s OK to play, how to use all that rambunctious energy, and how to follow rules.

Try to be flexible. Parenting can be a fatiguing experience, but try not to be too rigid. Hearing a constant chorus of "no" can be disheartening for kids. Sometimes, of course, "no" is absolutely the only answer — "no, you can’t ride your bike without your helmet!" But other times, you might let the kids win one. For instance, if your child wants to keep the wiffle ball game going a little longer, maybe give it 15 more minutes.

As anyone who’s been really angry knows, following sensible advice can be tough when emotions run high. Give your child responsibility for getting under control, but be there to remind him or her of how to do it.

Most kids can learn to get better at handling anger and frustration. But if your child frequently gets into fights and arguments with friends, siblings, and adults, additional help might be needed. Talk with the other adults in your child’s life — teachers, school counselors, and coaches might be able to help, and your child’s doctor can recommend a counselor or psychologist.

Communicate with your 4-5 years old child

Communicating with a child, from infancy onward, is one of the most pleasurable and rewarding experiences for both parent and child. Children learn by absorbing information through daily interactions and experiences with other children, adults, and the world. And between the ages of 4 and 5, many children enter preschool or kindergarten programs, making language competency necessary for learning in the classroom.

How Should I Communicate With My Child?
The more interactive conversation and play a child is involved in, the more a child learns. Reading books, singing, playing word games, and simply talking to your child will increase his or her vocabulary while providing increased opportunities to develop listening skills. Here are a few suggestions to improve your child's communication skills:

Help your child relate to books by selecting stories that mirror families like yours or people from your cultural or ethnic group.
Keep books, magazines, and other reading material where your child is able to reach them without help.
Help your child create his or her own "This Is Me" or "This Is Our Family" album with photographs or mementos.
Talk with your child about books or TV programs and videos that you watch together.
Let your child see you reading and enjoying books.
Typical Vocabulary and Communication Patterns
As children gain mastery over language skills, they become more sophisticated in their conversational abilities. A child of 4 to 5 years can follow complex directions and enthusiastically talks about things that happen to him or her. He or she can make up stories, listen attentively to stories, and retell stories himself.

At this age, children usually are able to understand that letters and numbers are symbols of real things and ideas, and that they can be used to tell stories and offer information.

Sentence structures now incorporate up to eight words, and vocabulary is between 1,000 and 2,000 words. Most children this age should have intelligible speech, although there may be some developmental sound errors and stuttering, particularly among boys.

Preschoolers generally are able to make comments and requests and give directions. They should know the names and gender of family members and other personal information. They often play with words and make up silly words and stories.

What Should I Do if I Suspect a Problem?
If you suspect your child has a problem with hearing, language acquisition, or speech clarity, call your child's doctor. A hearing test may be one of the first steps to determine if your child has a hearing problem. If the doctor suspects a specific communication deficit or delay, a referral for a speech-language evaluation may be recommended. If your child also appears to be delayed in other areas of development, he or she may be referred to a developmental pediatrician or psychologist.

A speech-language pathologist (an expert who evaluates and treats speech and language disorders) may recommend direct therapy or preschool special education services or make a referral to an audiologist (hearing specialist), developmental pediatrician, or psychologist.

Typical Communication Problems
Communication problems among children in this age group include:

hearing difficulties
problems following complex directions
difficulty with conversational interaction
poor vocabulary acquisition
difficulty learning preschool concepts, such as colors and counting
stuttering
difficulties with grammar and syntax
unclear speech
Some children will outgrow these problems. For others, more intensive therapy may be needed. Medical professionals, such as speech pathologists, therapists, or your child's doctor, can help your child overcome these communication problems.

Communicate with your 2-3 years old child

Communicating with a child, from infancy onward, is one of the most pleasurable and rewarding experiences for both parent and child. Children learn by absorbing information through daily interactions and experiences with other children, adults, and the world.

How Should I Communicate With My Child?
The more interactive conversation and play a child is involved in, the more a child learns. Reading books, singing, playing word games, and simply talking to your child will increase his vocabulary while providing increased listening opportunities. Here are a few suggestions to help improve your child's communication skills:

Talk to your toddler about what he or she did during the day or plans to do tomorrow. "I think it's going to rain this afternoon. What shall we do?" Or discuss the day's events at bedtime.
Play make-believe games.
Read your child's favorite books over and over and encourage him or her to join in with words he or she knows. Encourage "pretend" reading (let your child pretend he or she is reading a book to you).
Typical Vocabulary and Communication Patterns
Between the ages of 2 and 3, children experience a tremendous growth spurt in language skills. Although each child develops at a unique pace, when it comes to language skills, by the age of 2, most children can follow simple directions and can speak about 50 to 200 words. Many children may also begin to echo what they hear and begin to combine words in short phrases.

By about 2 years of age, a child usually knows at least 200 words and uses fragmented and short phrases. Children at this age usually can follow additional instructions, such as "Come to Daddy." A 3-year-old's vocabulary typically falls between 200 and 300 words, and by this time many children begin to string words together in short sentences.

Kids at this stage of language development start to understand more and speak more clearly, and they're usually able to use language to engage in a simple question-and-answer format. By age 3, children should be using language freely, experimenting with sounds, and beginning to use language to solve problems and learn concepts. They can also count 3 objects correctly and will know their age. However, although they are using and understanding many words, only about 3/4 of what they say will be understandable to others.

What Should I Do if I Suspect a Problem?
If you suspect your child is having trouble with hearing, language acquisition, or speech clarity, call your child's doctor. A hearing test may be one of the first steps in determining if your child has a hearing problem. Two years of age is not too young for a referral for a speech/language evaluation, particularly if your child is not following directions or answering "yes" or "no" to simple questions.

A speech-language pathologist (an expert who evaluates and treats speech and language disorders) may recommend direct therapy, referral to a developmental pediatrician if there is suspicion of a global developmental delay (delays in more than one area of development, including gross motor, fine motor, problem-solving, language, and social skills), early intervention services, or a follow-up assessment to see if your child will catch up over time.

Typical Communication Problems
Communication problems for 2- to 3-year-olds include:

hearing difficulties
problems following directions
poor vocabulary acquisition
speech dysfluencies (difficulty initiating or sustaining sounds)
delayed acquisition of phrasing skills
unclear speech
Problems - such as stuttering - may be a developmental process that some children will outgrow. For others, more intensive therapy may be needed. Medical professionals, such as speech pathologists, therapists, or your child's doctor, can help your child overcome these communication problems.

Some parents worry that a toddler who is not speaking may have autism. Children with autism and related conditions may have delayed speech or other problems with communication, but poor social interactions, and limited or restricted interests or patterns of behavior are also hallmarks of this disorder. If you have any questions or concerns about your child' development, talk with your child's doctor.

The 3, 4 and 5 Year-Old Child:Changes in social behaviour

Preschoolers are becoming more “adult-like” in their physical appearance. This
may be why adults often expect grown-up behavior from their children. Still,
preschoolers aren’t adults, and their behavior shows it. For instance,
preschoolers play with friends, but they can’t play very long together without
conflicts. Playtime often ends with tears or fights.

Young preschoolers may become involved in associative play. Two or three children use the same toys and equipment. They join in the same games, but they do their own thing. At other times, they may be involved in more advanced cooperative play. Children share toys, organize games and make friends. At this age, friendships
often don’t last long. Friendships are based on toys, children’s physical characteristics and where children live.The answer to “Why is Johnny your friend?” may be, “He lives next door and has a new swing set.”

Four and five-year-olds begin to develop best friends. Good friends are often the same sex and similar in age.

Preschoolers also like children who share common interests. Even among older children, however, friendships
change over time.

Children’s play

Parents and other adults want children to play “nicely” with other children. They’re pleased when children share
their toys and help others. But it’s hard for preschool children to play cooperatively, share and help. Children
can’t always act in positive social ways because they’re egocentric. They’re not able to see things from the
viewpoint of an adult or another child. They can’t imagine how a person may feel or think. They haven’t had
enough social experiences. They haven’t matured enough to “put themselves in the shoes” of another person.
They’re only aware of their own feelings or thoughts.

For example, your preshooler grabs a toy from his 18-month-old sister. When she starts to cry, he looks at her
with surprise! He’s happy because he wanted the toy and now he has it. He can’t put himself in the place of his
little sister. He doesn’t understand her sadness or anger. He doesn’t realize that his behavior has caused her to
feel sad or angry.

Here is another example of children’s egocentrism. Maria, who is four years old, wants to help mix the
cookie batter. She runs to the table, climbs on a chair and begins to stir. On her way to the table, she knocks
over her 19-month-old brother, Nicholas. Nicholas begins to cry. Maria continues to stir, not noticing her
brother’s tears. Maria’s dad says, “Maria, you knocked Nick down. How would
you feel if he knocked you down?” Maria looks ar her dad briefly. Then she
continues to stir the cookie batter.
Many adults would be angry or astonished by Maria’s behavior. But Maria is acting
normally for her age. Maria has little or no understanding of how her brother is
feeling. She only knows that she’s happy, and she’s only thinking about stirring the
cookie batter.
Maria doesn’t understand the difference between right and wrong. Parents may
spend time teaching their children to cooperate, help, share, and be good, but
children can’t always behave in those ways until they’re developmentally old enough. Here are some ways
adults can help children to learn these behaviors.
• Ask your child to talk about her feelings concerning other children’s acts. For example, “How did
you feel when Jimmy knocked over your blocks? Were you angry or sad?”
• Tell your child how his behavior affected another child. For instance, “When you knocked your
brother down, he felt angry. He also hurt his arm. Her was feeling pain.”
• Talk about the similarities and differences between your child’s feelings and the feelings of others.
For example, “You were excited and happy about playing in the sand box, but Kathy was sad. She
wanted to play with her dolls” or “Both of your feel angry because you can’t have ice cream cones.
If you eat ice cream now, you won’t have room for your lunch. You can have ice cream for dessert.
What flavor would you like then?”
• Tell your child how her behavior has affected you. “Hitting hurts. It might hurt me or your brother or
your friend. I can’t allow you to hit me or anyone. When you’re angry at me, you need to say,
‘Daddy, I’m angry at you.’ Then we can talk about your feelings.”
• Encourage your child to change a situation. Let’s take the example of Maria and her brother
described above. Talk to both children about their feelings. Then say, “Maria, let’s make some room
on the chair for Nick. Nick, you can help Maria stir the cookie batter. I’ll hold you so you won’t fall.
I can help you stir if you need help.” You’re teaching both children how to solve a problem between
two people.
• You’re showing children that it’s important to help others and share in an activity. Children who
share, cooperate and help others tend to have parents who are warm, affectionate and nurturing.

Aku manusia upset

Sejak dua menjak ni aku tersangat2la upset ..upset yang teramat dengan my boy's challenging behaviour that is better known as tantrums. Below are the lists of things need to be looked into in line to adress this matter:-

1) equal attention
2) soft speaking(no yelling/ no throwing/ no pushing)
3) consistent routine e.g eating, bath, bed time
4) education before bed time

Nanti ade mase aku summarisekanla apemende yang aku dah paste dalam blog ni. I do strongly feel, my boy just unhappy to see me 24hrs in front of computer or sometimes busy with another houseworks and no time to play with him. Sorry my dear, mummy now is so..so..busy. He probably miss the time us being together before his rival was born 5 months ago. That is the fact of life, beranak pinak and inevitably the love has to be divided to another siblings. Another root of my boy's tantrums probably cause by learning and copying other children frustration and anger from his nursery which is 80% occupied by the younger toddler in the age of 2.5+(ni yang aku boring ni masukkan nursery..udahle bayo mahal2..peel tak bagus!).